Stuff that we just don't usually talk about
I think it depends on the person, and what they go through in their life. Personally, I think I will become more laid back :)
Good question. I am finding that I do both as I age; I get harder AND softer. I think I have become more set in my ways, more sure of my convictions, yet, in other ways, I have chilled out more, but maybe that's from becoming jaded and tired of life and all it's trials?